Who is supposed to pay for the honeymoon? Where did you go on your honeymoon?
Happy Thanksgiving! asked:
My father is paying for 95% of the wedding. Traditionally, is the father supposed to pay for both the wedding and the honeymoon? I ask because I was looking into honeymoons somewhere tropical (Hawaii, St. Lucia, Jamacia, etc…) and everything (we want a package deal) is $4000.00 and up. I think that is just way too much money. How can we get a great experience somewhere tropical for half that? Any ideas?
Why are so many giving me the 3rd degree. I asked my father when we set the date if he would HELP out a little bit and he was very considerate and offered to pay for almost all of it. I just didn’t want to be rude to him and ask if he’d also help pay for the honeymoon.
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My father is paying for 95% of the wedding. Traditionally, is the father supposed to pay for both the wedding and the honeymoon? I ask because I was looking into honeymoons somewhere tropical (Hawaii, St. Lucia, Jamacia, etc…) and everything (we want a package deal) is $4000.00 and up. I think that is just way too much money. How can we get a great experience somewhere tropical for half that? Any ideas?
Why are so many giving me the 3rd degree. I asked my father when we set the date if he would HELP out a little bit and he was very considerate and offered to pay for almost all of it. I just didn’t want to be rude to him and ask if he’d also help pay for the honeymoon.
November 26th, 2008 at 7:47 pm
The bride’s parents are supposed to handle wedding and the groom’s family should get the honeymoon.
I’m still trying to figure out where to go
November 27th, 2008 at 5:31 pm
HMM i dont know about tradition, but I would say make the groom pay.
November 29th, 2008 at 2:48 pm
We paid for our own honeymoon. We went to the bahamas for 7 nights at Sandals. I think it was $2300/per person. That was 10 years ago. If you are looking for inexpensive try Mexico. Cancun or Cozumel. You could probably go all inclusive for less than $1000/pp.
December 2nd, 2008 at 12:49 am
You and your future husband is supposed to pay for the wedding and honeymoon. Your parents can offer to help pay or pay for it all, but they are under no law or obligation to pay for anything. I am going to Hawaii for less then $1,500 for ten days and that is for two of us.
December 2nd, 2008 at 6:41 am
Traditionally , he father of the bride pays for the wedding and you are on your own for the honeymoon. Usually, the couple used the money they collect as gifts to cover it. Today’s etiquette dictates that you are on your own for both the honeymoon and wedding. Be glad that your Dad is paying for most of the wedding.
Yes, that does sound like an awful lot of dinero for a honeymoon. Maybe try something less tropical and more centered on the two of you. How about a weekend at a bed and breakfast or an adventure weekend skiing in Colorado. Then save and sacrifice for the tropical vacation to take in a few years.
Have a great time!
December 5th, 2008 at 6:07 pm
If the brides family was responsible for the wedding and honeymoon I’d be a bit upset and I’d be asking why women have to do it all. Pay for weddings, give birth, clean lol. We were going to go to Sandals but it’s too expensive and way too popular so now we think we’re going to head out to Orlando, Florida and go to Typhoon Lagoon and Aquatica. Here’s a thing about wedding etiquette, it helped me figure a lot of stuff out.
December 8th, 2008 at 7:13 am
You pay for your own honeymoon! Your parents and his I’m sure have done more than enough! When is it time for YOU to pay for something?
December 10th, 2008 at 10:24 pm
The bride and grooms parents paying for anything is an OLD tradition. These days it’s really up tp the bride and groom to be responsible for their wedding and honeymoon…and if the parents choose to help out, great. My fiance and I are paying all on our own. We are going to Aruba for our honeymoon…we got an all inclusive package for about $3500 including airfare.
December 11th, 2008 at 1:58 pm
NO! you are very fortunate that your dad is paying so much of your expenses! but once that ring is on your finger then your dad can heave a sigh of relief and know that you are no longer his responsibility! lol
there is no tradition i know of that says either set of parents pay – that’s just wishful thinking on the part of the couple getting married! lol
the honeymoon is your expense no one elses. yes i know some couples put a honeymoon registry up but i think its rude and unreasonable to suggest people pay any money towards your holiday. but that’s just me – i’m sure there will be lots of brides telling you otherwise!
wishing you a very happy wedding!
December 12th, 2008 at 11:59 am
Check out cruise packages from either Royal Caribbean or Carnival cruises. Both of them have cruise packages where you can visit tropical destinations for less than that and include some activities in the areas you’ll be visiting.
December 14th, 2008 at 8:07 am
If you want something cheaper got to Mexico.
We were going to go to Hawaii but its 1,500 just for the tickets! If you want to still go somewhere tropical google the cheapest times to go, like the months and days. As far as who pays for it i say you 2, Take the money that you get from gifts and spend it on a vacation, Your dad is already paying for the wedding, dont make him pay for the honeymoon also.
December 14th, 2008 at 4:27 pm
The GROOM pays for the honeymoon!!! (Or if they are both career people, the bride and groom pay for it jointly!) You are totally lucky that your father is covering 95% of the wedding!!! He does NOT – in any culture, country or religion – have to also tote the bill for the bride and groom’s after-wedding, full-out *** holiday!! sheesh!!
December 17th, 2008 at 1:50 am
I think expecting someone else to pay your way is really lame, I’m sorry. You are a grown woman, amrrying an adult man-go somewhere you can afford to go on your own.
Your father is very generous, I hope you realize.
December 18th, 2008 at 4:39 pm
Traditionally the groom (and his bride, in this day and age) pay for their own honeymoon. My fiance and I are going to California. We are budgeting $5000 for the 10-day trip to cover everything, including airfare, car rental and all other expenses. The best way to handle the honeymoon budget is the same way youhandle the wedding budget – you create a budget and go where you can afford to go. My best friend went to Sandal’s St. Lucia for 6 days for about $2000 and had a blast. Maybe look into that.
Good luck!
December 21st, 2008 at 4:26 pm
Usualy the couple pays for the honeymoon. Sandals is a great deal. Especialy if you go to Sandals Inn in Jamaica. It’s a much cheaper resort because it doesn’t have fancy rooms and as many amenities as the other resorts how ever there is a near by resort Sandal’s Montego bay resort and you get into there for free and they drive you there free. So you’re basicly paying a cheaper price but getting all of the same things as Sandals Montego bay people. The fact is though it may seem alittle expensive I found the cheapest package at Sandals Inn was $2775.68 but that’s including airfare food drinks and entertainment so in the end i think that’s worth it. Oh and tips and gratuity would be included as well so you need literaly no money unless you intend on going shopping or something.
December 24th, 2008 at 10:25 am
I’d say you and your fiance should pay for it. That is what we are doing because both of our parents are helping with the actual wedding.
December 25th, 2008 at 8:33 pm
No the groom is supposed to pay for the honeymoon.
We went to the Poconos less than 2,000, but that was 10 years ago.
December 29th, 2008 at 5:37 am
The groom pays for the honeymoon! The rehearsal dinner and flowers for bride, and mothers.
January 1st, 2009 at 10:35 am
I would think dad has done more than enough unless he offers the honeymoon as a gift. You are lucky to have a father that can do so much.
The only way my husband and I had a honeymoon at all was because of cash gifts at our wedding. We added up what we received and decided to go to the coast for a few days. Otherwise we wouldn’t of had a honeymoon at all.
January 1st, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Traditionally the groom’s family pays for the honeymoon. However, more and more couples are paying for their own wedding. I know my mom has already started saving for my wedding and and engagement is at least another year to 18 months away. We figured that if my mom, my dad, and then me and my husband come up with $5000 each, we will have 15,000 for a wedding and then my husband and I will decide on a honeymoon as a couple.
If you go on to theknot.com you can find information on etiquette.
January 2nd, 2009 at 2:42 am
I think that traditionally, the bride’s parents paid for the wedding and reception, while the groom’s parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon. But in this day and age, with so many couples covering costs themselves, there is no clear-cut line.
January 3rd, 2009 at 2:46 pm
My husband and myself paid for our wedding as well as for our honeymoon. Though our families helped us out with some money without us asking them too.
January 4th, 2009 at 2:18 pm
These days the couple pays for their honeymoon, as well as the wedding.
We had no honeymoon (it was okay, really!), because we chose to host our guests to a wonderful wedding, and we just wanted to finally move in together as husband and wife.
If you two can’t afford to pay for it yourselves, either scale down your idea or delay the honeymoon and take a vacation later.